Have you ever become spiteful or experience feelings of sadness and jealousy when you see other people's accomplishments and end up feeling like a failure? Or have you ever heard someone else's nasty comments after they witness someone else's achievements or accomplishments? If so, what is the primary cause of this?
Well, a majority of people tend to judge their successes or failures based on how others are doing. And that is the primary cause of such reactions. It starts by one feeling as though he is not succeeding as they should be based on how others are doing in their own lives.
That thinking therefore breeds one of the most dangerous emotions, the emotions of jealousy and rivalry which they then project onto the person whom they perceive to be "doing well".
What these type of individuals fail to recognize is that they have a low sense of self-worth. They are merely existing instead of living.
Their whole lives are prejudged by what the society tells them, and in addition they judge themselves by how their peers, colleagues, classmates etc are doing in their own lives. These individuals lack a sense of purpose and having a clear intention of building the life they desire and having the how to of acquiring whatever they desire.
Their lack of having clear life objectives, and the how to in achieving those objectives leads them in living and judging their lives by comparing themselves to others and what they are doing - which indicates their low sense of self-worth and the lack of having a definite goal and plan of living the life they truly want.
If they think they are doing a bit better than the next person, they feel content and better about themselves. If they think the next person is doing better than them, they feel terrible as though they are failing. They are basically winging their own lives.
So, what is the cure to all this?
For an individual who often experiences these kinds of emotions, the first step is to find their sense of life purpose, have a plan to achieve his or her goals, be clear and intentional in how they are going to achieve those goals.
Once one gets to that point, these feelings of jealousy, misery, and envy they project onto themselves and others will be eliminated. The judgement of one's life's successes and failures based on how others are doing will be completely diminished which would result in living a much more fulfilling life.
If you also sometimes find yourself comparing and judging yourself as to how others are doing, you ought to realize that you suffer from a low sense of self-worth. And the cure to that is to find your own personal life meaning and purpose. And live towards it.
Once you are clear, intentional, and have a plan in building the life you desire, how others are doing in their lives will never be a concern to you ever again.
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