As much as some may disagree, there are useless people. And many do not realize when and if they are useless.
But for clarity, let me begin with the definition of the term useless. Oxford Dictionary defines the term as "not fulfilling or not expected to achieve the intended purpose or the desired outcome".
Now the symptoms of uselessness are:
- Having no plan for one's life, whatsoever
- Being unaccountable
- Always seeing oneself as a victim
- Always complaining
- Untrustworthy
As a man, there are expectations you ought to execute or expected to exhibit. As a woman, there are expectations you ought to achieve and behaviors you may be expected to display. These are not only societal driven but are expectations that even nature itself may require from us.
If you are stagnant and have no plan for how to turn your situation around, you are always complaining about everything but aren't proactive in solving anything. Failing to take account of your past and present decisions as a determining factor for how your life is. Moreover, if you are untrustworthy to those close to you. You may indeed be a useless person - looking at the above symptoms of uselessness.
When you exhibit these types of behaviors you set precedence for others to see you as useless. Even if you may not realize it, or take it as an insult when you are told such, the reality would be, your character and behaviors indicate those of someone who is not fulfilling or does not achieve the intended purpose or the desired outcome.
Therefore, the ideal aim for each of us is to try all means to dissipate the symptoms if we recognize we have them. But to be able to identify them within ourselves, it is to be consciously self-aware before others tell you.
It is a worse feeling when others will tell you you are useless compared to yourself actually seeing yourself as useless before others do. The onus is for one to introspect and see if they exhibit the five symptoms I have mentioned above. Try to avoid them or get rid of them as soon as they start crippling in.
No one would be comfortable with being seen as useless, so to avoid such, avoid all the symptoms and be a hero of your own story.
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