As respect is earned, there are behaviors that one can exhibit to get it from anyone they meet and interact with. Perception is at the center of the level of respect people either show or give you. Knowing this is the first step in intentionally forming a specific perception about how others see you, and therefore the level of respect they may give you.
Here are five simple ways that can make people respect you more:
Stop Being Always Available
You don't always have to honor that invite, you don’t always need to respond to that text. You don’t always need to smile, laugh or get back to people.
You shouldn’t be always available, and your real life can reflect this. You should be conscious of doing this, it is a sense of scarcity that creates the perception of high value, and therefore people will give you a certain level of respect once you are scarce with your time and availability.
Create a life that makes you and your time scarce.
Know Your Boundaries and Exert Them
Stop being a people pleaser. People will always take advantage of your pleasing nature, or the mentality that "you don't want people to think you are rude". Because that leads you to not have clear boundaries, and if you have, people can easily go beyond them with no repercussions for doing so. Once people see or sense that you have no clear boundaries, it invites disrespect in many forms.
Having clear boundaries and others knowing them creates a sense that you know who you are and your own sense of self-worth is not attached to pleasing people. People will give you respect as you show firmness and the ability to stand for what you believe in.
Talk Less
Talking too much irritates people more than any other behavior - irritation can never breed respect, avoid talking too much. Speaking less demonstrates comfort in one’s own skin if coupled with a relaxed demeanor. It gives the other person a chance to speak more, which presents you as open, thoughtful, and generous with the space you give.
Speaking less also generates a mystery about you that keeps people interested, and wanting to know more about you, thus influencing people to give you more respect.
Dress Well
Being mindful of how you dress, means being mindful of how people perceive you. Always looking good and presentable creates a perception of you, and that may earn you a little bit more respect than someone who looks scruffy. If you are intentional in getting the respect you deserve or need; how you dress, i.e how you present yourself to the world is one of the core elements you would need to focus on.
Stop Trying To Impress Everyone
You need to get rid of the mentality that if you please others you will be rewarded with being seen as the "nicest" person description. Focus on being a person of value rather than trying to be the "nicest" person ever. The world rewards people who are of value. People who are of value receive the respect their value deserves, whether in others or in the marketplace where they trade.
Pleasing people is not a life strategy that will lead to anything good for you unless you prefer to see your soul gradually diminish and people slowly lose respect for you. Instead, be valuable and serve people when it’s appropriate.
All the above are some of the many ways you can intentionally exert to earn respect or influence people to respect you a little more. Remember, it's all about perception, how people perceive you is the number one indicator of how much respect they will give you.
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