Love is one of the most complex and mysterious emotions that humans experience. Falling in love and aiming at sustaining a long-term relationship solely on emotion is not ideal. Most if not all the time, such a relationship tends to yield bad results either for one or both parties.
Emotions come and go, and love is an emotion. Therefore, the person you love today, you might hate tomorrow. The one you don't love today, you might love tomorrow.
A lot of people tend to get infatuated with someone, then go all out to express their "love" for them and that infatuation is mostly influenced by the physical appearance of the other person - which then leads to physical attraction. And therefore, they fall "in love" with that individual solely because of the emotion.
And that has been the downfall of many men and women.
There is nothing wrong with being in love, however, if you intend on having a long-term healthy romantic relationship with a person, you ought to look past that emotion you feel at that moment - as I said emotions come and go. The mistake many do is to get so attached to that emotion and forget to use their brains.
The best thing to do for yourself is to be rational enough to manage your emotions and if you intend on engaging in a romantic relationship with someone, you ought to introspect and look at your compatibility with the person you think you are in love with.
Your socio-economic status, your education level, your cultural background, your family structure & upbringing, your religion, and for us older people - even your credit score must be compatible with the one you choose to love or the one who chooses to love you.
Long-term relationships are an investment, falling in love solely on emotion is almost a guarantee that you will not get your ROI, that is if you do not lose what you have.
By what you have I do not only mean material possessions, I mean your peace and your sanity.
This applies to both males and females by the way.
Many have children with people they today regret having had kids with. Many regret having to fall in love with people who only take from them. So many people regret being in love with people who stole from them.
All the above can happen to anyone even if you considered more than just an emotion to fall in love and be in a romantic relationship with someone. But combining all the necessary factors such as the ones I had listed drastically decreases the likelihood that one may regret and end up hating that one person whom they used to dearly love.
In as much as they say don't act when you are angry, also be rational when you are in love.
That is an investment that your future depends on. Before you invest you ought not only be infatuated by the potential returns you see on paper, you consider many other factors that may affect your investment. So is falling in love. Failure to do so may be the worst thing you will ever do to your present and future self.
It has happened to many, do not be a victim. Emotions come and go.
Having a person that is so compatible with you in many ways, even when the emotion begins to fade away, it will always return back as the factors sustaining the relationship supersedes any element that may deter or interfere with your relationship. That alone ensures the love never really fades away.
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