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Contrary to Popular Belief, Babies Actually Choose Their Parents


Generally, many believe that babies do not choose their parents, it is just an automatic process in which certain children are born into a certain type of family and others are born into another one. But that is not the case.


Yes, babies do not choose to be conceived and born. That is their parents' choice. But what stands out is that a baby's soul chooses which parents and family it will be born into.


The basis of this is the concept of incarnation and reincarnation which many traditions and religions worldwide believe in.


The belief that babies' souls choose their parents was made popular by the Hunduism, Kundalin Theory. Which was discovered between the 7th and 9th centuries BCE.


It originated in the Eastern parts of the world, then went to the west where it was popularised by the famous psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, Carl Jung. And it found its way into many religious practices in Africa.


How the soul of a baby chooses its parents and family all happens in what is called the pre-birth agreement and soul contracts. These are all guided by the reincarnation of a soul. Primarily, we choose our parents and families for either one of these reasons, spiritual lessons or karmic reasons.


If you believe that a person's soul and his body are different entities, you would understand that when one dies, their soul/spirit leaves the physical body. What we bury is just the mere physical representation of the soul.


So what happens to that soul?


It goes to the spiritual world and eventually gets reincarnated back into the physical world.


It comes back to this world in some form or shape. Primarily back in a human form. That is when the soul chooses a conceived foetus. It then takes the conceived baby as its physical representation that will be born on earth. The baby will be new to earth, but its soul is not. It has been reincarnated.


Have you perhaps encountered a situation where a parent would say, "This baby looks like great grandfather A"? As that baby grows it possesses the same mannerisms and behaviours of grandfather A.


What this means is that Grandfather A chose new parents and got reincarnated back to earth as a new person, but the soul remains the same. Even if that baby dies, Grandfather A's soul will keep on living and coming back and forth between the physical and spiritual world.


A soul can choose its parents for lessons. In its previous life, it may have experienced a different family life, and now chooses to learn more about other different lives and chooses parents and a life that will provide those lessons. Which are lessons they will take in their next life.


A soul can also choose its parents for karma.


A soul may have been done injustice in their previous waking life, and now comes back as a means to execute karma to their soul ties. Moreover, most times, your grandparents may have done someone wrong in their previous physical life, and you then get born to suffer the consequences of your grandparents' deeds.


What is essential is that this is not just about you - you as a physical entity. But the soul that lives within you.


In addition, there are also generational curses.


Your soul and its ties can be generationally cursed. The soul may have been suffering from its many previous lives but it comes back to continuously still suffer over and over.


A soul will choose an impoverished family, and that child will remain poor until they die. This is a generational curse that the soul possesses. Therefore whoever it chooses will live a life of suffering in the physical world.


Over and above all, what this teaches us is that what we experience is pre-destined. And it is not our own doing but the consequences of our souls and their ties/connection with others. Including family, friends, and everyone we meet in our waking lives.


However, we do have free will. Just because my life is a pre-determined destination does not mean I do not have free will to make choices. We do experience life on earth by the choices we make and reap the rewards or suffer their consequences. But our soul's destination will always remain as such, regardless of where or how my life is in the physical world.


For us to live and understand how and why our lives are the way they are, we need to find our purpose on earth. That is - to find out why you chose the family you have. Whether you are suffering or not, your soul chose that life for a purpose.


No matter how your family treats you, never abandon them. Your soul chose it for a good reason and lessons. You can abandon your parents and the family and 'create' your own from the people you meet in the world, disregarding the spiritual and pre-birth agreement your soul had with its soul ties, i.e your parents. In the same breath, your parents can abandon you, and they will also suffer the consequences of abandoning their soul ties. They will return over and over with the same issue, their soul will never find peace until they resolve and undertake what their soul requires.


What will remain constant is that your soul will return to earth and choose the same life you're running away from over and over until whatever it wants sorted is resolved.


Your worldly traumas and struggles you find in your waking life, your soul more than likely chose them. To mainly resolve or learn lessons it failed to in its previous physical life.


What I gather from these teachings of Kandalini is that our waking lives are not ours but our souls. As you read this, you are not your physical form but a representation of your soul. The soul that chose your mother and father.


The onus is on you to find your soul's WHY. Why are you here, and why do you have the soul ties you have, i.e your parents, siblings, and close friends?


Failure to find it is not a trainsmash though as you will someday return to earth in another child's body. But because you did not find the big WHY, that child will experience the same things you are facing now. If you are suffering now, you will still suffer over and over until you find your why, learn, grow, and go into the next life with new challenges.

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